8 Major Signs of Borderline Personality Disorder

    • Relational instability: Relational instability may include challenges in almost all relationships the person has. For example, someone with BPD may find it extremely difficult to trust a coworker, a boss, a neighbor, a friend,  or even a family member for no apparent reason to outsiders. Their reason, however, may include unjustifiable reasons such as fear of being hurt eventually, fear of abandonment, or even covetousness or envy. Because some individuals with BPD have strong and overpowering emotions, it is possible that someone may find their feelings of envy or jealousy difficult to control as well.
    • “Impostor syndrome”: Some of my former clients with BPD have explained feeling as if they are “acting on a stage” or playing a role in their lives. They don’t feel like they think they should feel and often struggle with identifying a place in the world. Although I have trouble with this term and doubt its significance due to social media over-psychoanalyzing the term, I think most of society experiences this. But for someone with BPD traits, identity can feel really far away.
    • Insecurity: It’s important to understand that the person with BPD often struggle with body image, low self-esteem, needing validation (especially from men), and being highly influenced by others deemed “sexy,” attractive, or appealing. In some cases, the person with BPD may struggle with boundaries, may become flirtatious or promiscuous, and lost in their own confusion. I remember counseling a family who asked their daughter “why do you always have a man hanging on your arm? Can’t you just be single?”

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